This article really resonated with me. I have always been my worst critic. "They originate from external criticism, or our own fears and doubts." Once we hear these negative words that "we're not good enough" we run them on loop in our head. It seems so crazy to me the Rajeev would only spot out the small negative things when he received so much positive feedback. But, we all do that when we're our own worst critic. I use to crave criticism in the dance studio. I wanted my teacher to find something wrong with me, to push me to be better! If I was given positive feedback after feeling like it wasn't my best I was always more comfortable receiving negative feedback. I love the 4 step plan to move past negativity and into productivity: look for the positive, hear the positive, dig into understand the positive, believe the positive and act as if they're true.
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Why rejection hurts so much -- and what to do about it: Web Link
The next article I read was "Why rejection hurts so much -- and what to do about it." Whether the rejection is big or small, it still hurts. If you're at all familiar with The Enneagram, there are specific rejection types. Being a 2 I am a definite rejection type, meaning rejection gets to me a little more than others. I love how this article answers the question of why it hurts so bad? "The greatest damage rejection causes is usually self-inflicted. Just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further." Our brain is wired to be affected by rejection since the dinosaur ages. But, there are a few things we can do to help us not to be so affected by rejection. 1. Have zero tolerance for self criticism, 2. Revive your self-worth, and 3. Boost Feelings of social connection.
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